Wall of Caring

We remember and honor family and friends through our Wall of Caring. Tiles are inscribed with a personal message in memory or honor of a special individual or event, and are displayed in our lobby in recognition of donations of $250 or more. A Wall of Caring form may be downloaded, completed, and mailed to us along with your gift of $250 or more. Include your contact information so that we may notify you when your tile has been placed on our Wall of Caring (typically eight to ten weeks upon receipt of your form).

One Donor’s Story

“In 1990, the man who had been my husband for 25 years ended his life. His death left an incredible sense of helplessness and emptiness for family and friends. All of us started our respective grieving and the long journey to accept what had happened. For many people this process took place in silence, but I had the opportunity to participate in the survivors after suicide support group at the Contra Costa Crisis Center.

Much disbelief and sadness came over me as I joined the group the first night. There were about 30 people in the room, mostly women. My mind kept repeating silently, ‘They’re all here because someone they loved suicided.’ Then I realized that this tragedy touches so many more people than anyone can imagine, and that those in this support group represented only a small portion of the total number who had lost loved ones to suicide.

As the months passed, I learned with others in my group that it was important to stop searching for all of the answers to the “whys,” that I might never understand the tragedy that had struck. People’s lives are complicated and rarely is there a single reason why a person ends his life. Hearing others talk about their feelings, and talking about mine, started the healing process, painful as it was.

Every week when I came for the support group I stopped at the Wall of Caring in the Crisis Center’s lobby. The wall is made up of clay tiles with names on them, and I thought it was touching to have a place where, as survivors, we could share our memories, our tears, and also our hope.

When my group ended, I made a donation for a tile in my deceased husband’s name. Shortly thereafter I moved to the East Coast. Three years later I returned to California to visit and I saw his tile for the first time. It brought tears to my eyes, but it also felt good to see his name and to remember everyone in my group who had helped me in my grief. I have been back to the Bay Area several times since—I’ve also married again—and I always make a point of visiting the Wall of Caring in the lobby of the Contra Costa Crisis Center.

I know from experience that having a tile on the Wall of Caring gives me a chance to reaffirm my love for someone I lost and also provides financial support to the Crisis Center. I encourage anyone who wants to memorialize a loved one in a special way to consider it. Many people go to a grave site to remember and pray, but I believe that the Wall of Caring is testimony of our love for lost ones and of our journey to the Crisis Center for help.”